My Toddler Used to Eat Everything. What Happened?

One day your toddler was eating everything you put in front of them. Now they won't touch half of it - and you're wondering what you did wrong.

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Sari Imberman

The group chat summary

The discussion covered common mistakes that can unintentionally reinforce picky eating, such as bargaining, pressuring, or removing foods from rotation entirely. Sari also shared guidance on managing mealtime power struggles, handling grandparents and caregivers with different feeding philosophies, and recognizing when feeding challenges may require professional support.

Why Toddlers Suddenly Stop Eating Favorite Foods

• Food neophobia is a normal developmental phase that commonly peaks between ages 2 and 5.
• Slower growth after infancy often leads to decreased appetite and increased selectivity.
• Toddlers use food preferences and refusals as part of developing autonomy and testing boundaries.

Common Responses That Can Backfire

• Removing refused foods from rotation reduces familiarity and future acceptance.
• Bargaining, bribing, or pressuring children to take bites can increase resistance.
• Constantly serving only preferred foods may unintentionally shrink a child's accepted food list.

The Power of Repeated Exposure

• Familiarity builds acceptance over time, even when children do not immediately eat a food.
• Exposure can include seeing, smelling, and tolerating a food near them.
• Small portions of learning foods alongside preferred foods support long-term success.

The Division of Responsibility in Feeding

• Caregivers decide what, when, where, and how food is offered.
• Children decide whether and how much they eat.
• Trusting children to regulate intake supports a healthier relationship with food.

Creating Lower-Stress Mealtimes

• Keep reactions neutral when children refuse foods.
• Offer a mix of "love it," "like it," and "learning it" foods.
• Focus on consistency and long-term progress rather than individual meals.

When to Seek Professional Support

• Significant weight loss or falling off growth curves warrants evaluation.
• A food repertoire below approximately 15 foods and continuing to shrink may be concerning.
• Persistent gagging, vomiting, pain, or severe meal-related distress should be discussed with a pediatrician or feeding specialist.

Managing Mealtime Challenges

• Food throwing can be treated as communication that a child is finished eating.
• Set clear, calm boundaries without punishment or shame.
• Consistent responses help reduce power struggles over time.